Dear you,

If you’re reading this you’ve probably hit a bump or two in the road. And that’s okay. In reality, it’s just a change of plans. You see, sometimes we have our whole lives planned out and we think it’s going to go one way but it ends up going another. And we feel like a failure. We feel defeated. At times, we even feel like we’re to blame. But here’s the reality.

Sometimes our plan f*cking sucks. Sometimes God, life, fate, or whatever it is you believe in has a bigger, better plan for you. When you’re headed in the wrong direction fate will make sure to make things so uncomfortable for you, you’ll have no choice but to walk away. If things are meant to be they will be. If a job, or a dream, or a person is meant for you it will flow into your life effortlessly. So here’s what you need to hear.

Stop trying to make the pieces fit if they don’t.

Often times we make excuses for a person so we can keep them. If you have to make excuses, that person isn’t the right fit. If you have to constantly fight for a dream, it isn’t the right dream. If you keep getting turned down for that job or that promotion, you’re not supposed to get it.

“Life is what happens to us while we are making other plans.”

– Allen Saunders

Sometimes our biggest blessings come from our biggest lessons…the hardest no’s we’ve ever heard, the backs that have been turned on us. Happy ending doesn’t always mean a fairytale wedding and babies and family trips to Disney. It doesn’t always mean the house with the picket fence, your dream job, and the Golden Retriever puppy. Sometimes it’s you, strong on your own, picking the pieces up off the ground.

Sure, in theory your plan may sound great. But plans change. And like I said earlier, sometimes your plan f*cking sucks. So take a look around, cry your tears if you have to, but then get back up. And gather the pieces off the ground. Tape them back together if you have to but first make sure they’re a good fit.